{"id":41784,"date":"2024-04-14T16:53:53","date_gmt":"2024-04-14T16:53:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/?p=41784"},"modified":"2024-04-14T16:56:29","modified_gmt":"2024-04-14T16:56:29","slug":"so-my-question-is-you-have-spoken-about-online","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/?p=41784","title":{"rendered":"So my question is \u2013 you have spoken about online dating a few times, and i find it SO intimidating!"},"content":{"rendered":"So my question is \u2013 you have spoken about online dating a few times, and i find it SO intimidating!<\/title><\/p>\n<p>I’ve had a very specific post in mind that I’ve wanted to write for quite some time, but recently got a reader question via email that I thought was just perfect. So here we go!<\/p>\n<p>First off \u2013 thank you for what you do. your blog is my first stop every morning and I greatly appreciate your attitude, outlook and perspective. I’m 33 and single and you have been such a positive voice and a wonderful reminder that it is OKAY to be single! (I’m also equally obsessed with clean skincare and I really just feel like we’d be dear friends!)<\/p>\n<p>I’ve tried it a couple of times and hated everything about it \u2013 from creating a profile, to awkwardly messaging strangers, to the uncomfortable first date.<\/p>\n<p>I would love your advice on all of those things \u2013 even your thoughts on how to have a positive mindset about it!<\/p>\n<h2>Okay, let’s discuss! I have a lot of feelings and a lot to say (but also thank you for the kind words and for reaching out)!<\/h2>\n<p>It pretty sure I don’t want kids. You never know, things could change and maybe one day I will be in my forties and really want one. In that case I will either try to have one biologically or adopt one. Right now though, kids <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https:\/\/gorgeousbrides.net\/pt\/asia-me\/\">Cr\u0413\u00a9ditos AsiaMe<\/a> are a HARD no and aunt life is the best life. For me. (PLEASE no judgements\/comments on my stance here; we don’t have to all want the same things; that would be SO BORING!)<\/p>\n<p>So that definitely makes it easier from a timing perspective but also harder in it’s own ways (Most men I meet want children, and want them sooner rather than later.)<\/p>\n<p>I think not rushing, and not being under the gun to meet someone to start a family and have babies by XYZ date makes it easier to stay positive.<!--more--> The bar is high and will stay high, and I have a life that I really like. IF it felt like my life were missing this huge thing and I were looking at babies the way I look at kittens and puppies, it would be much harder.<\/p>\n<h2>I recognize that.<\/h2>\n<p>That being said \u2013 I still feel like I have something valuable to say that everyone can benefit from. Or at least I hope. I’m going to be brutally honest (as I always am) and give a bit of tough love as I want this post to actually be helpful.<\/p>\n<p>If you had told me ten years ago (when I was 27) that I would one day be 37 and single I would have had a complete conniption. Like, lost my mind and dramatically stayed in bed for days. Being over 35 and \u201calone\u201d would have been my literal WORST NIGHTMARE. I placed a lot of weight on my relationship. And when I was 29, 30, 31 and in a committed relationship where I thought I had met \u201cthe one,\u201d I was definitely v v smug. I’d look at my single friends and say the sort of stuff I hate hearing now. \u201cDon’t worry you’ll find someone,\u201d etc etc.<\/p>\n<h2>SO yes, I have been on both sides.<\/h2>\n<p>I’ve been the smug coupled off friend. I’ve also been the puddle of a mess of a friend who was so heartbroken she couldn’t eat. There are a lot of Graces that you don’t know because you read this blog, where I don’t talk a lot about this stuff. While I do share a lot with you, I also omit a LOT. So I think it’s easy to look at me and where I am in my life now and think I’m this positive, perennially happy person and that isn’t true.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So my question is \u2013 you have spoken about online dating a few times, and i find it SO intimidating! I’ve had a very specific post in mind that I’ve wanted to write for quite some time, but recently got a reader question via email that I thought was just perfect. So here we go!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13738],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-41784","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-gorgeousbrides-net-pt-asia-me-top-mail-order-bride-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41784","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=41784"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41784\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":41785,"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41784\/revisions\/41785"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=41784"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=41784"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/three60inc.co.ug\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=41784"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}